How to learn bondage

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To gain control, there are times you have to give it up. In the bedroom, an exciting way to do that is through bondage. One partner literally binds the other using physical restraints. The restraints can be ropes or handcuffs created specifically for use during sex play. Or you can get creative and use what you have at home, like the silk tie of a bathrobe or a leather belt.

Any sexual activity requires consent to be considered sex. That needs to be clarified ahead of time. For any type of BDSM activity, establish a safe word. And just you would in any other sexual encounter, discuss STI status and the last time you were tested. Once you have a safe word, use it and stop the play if you feel at all uncomfortable. And if you feel uneasy about needing a safe word or anything else about the situation , this may not be the right time to try bondage — or the right person to try it with. When it comes to bondage, figuring out which role you would prefer is this simple: what turns you on?

Is it the act of tying someone up, being the restrained partner, or both? As far as BDSM activities go, bondage is pretty low-risk. That being said, I do have a friend who once tied up his girlfriend to what he thought was just a pipe next to their bed. It turned out to be the heater, and since it was winter time, the heat turned on while she was tied up and he was going down on her. But for starters, do not tie anyone to a heater.

More to the point, check out your surroundings before you or your partner is tied up and unable to do anything about them. Additionally, keep a pair of safety shears around. Why scissors? Sounds interesting? You can buy books on the subject, or even better, attend one of the Shibari workshops held in New York and most other major cities. If you want a worry-free bondage session, though, your safest best is to pick up some Velcro handcuffs also available on Amazon in lots of sexy colors.

If either partner wants to stop, these cuffs can be easily removed without the hassle of untying knots. Yes, part of the fun may be slightly lessened if you know you can escape. And trust me on this one. Because you are surrendering control to your partner.

And for a Dom, needless to say, watching your sub squirm is just as hot. To make the bondage even more intense, add the element of sensory deprivation with a blindfold or earplugs. To up that ante, add some name-calling or role-playing. Rather than shooting for psychologically edgy, try making your bondage session a sensory experience.

For example, one partner can tie up the other, blindfold them, and then use a feather to tickle their nipples. If a pinch of pain turns you on, try light spanking or nipple pinching. Simply having rough sex can do the trick, too. With the right amount of lube, being tied up can be a crazy hot way to enjoy anal sex — and who can forget oral? Tie me up and make me go down on you? Yes, please! After any type of Dominance and submission play, endorphins, adrenaline and oxytocin will all be running high. Aftercare is just a fancy name for taking care of one another and making sure everyone feels OK, after having a good time.

If anyone has light rope burns or bruises, they could require ice or bandages. More likely, aftercare simply involves cuddling with one another, enjoying the post-orgasmic glow — and reminding each other that even though one partner was just tied up, spanked and called a slut, you truly care for each other and respect one another. Many first-timers feel a little queasy about trying bondage. What is bondage? The goal here is not to serve as an English language dictionary or thesaurus, confusing you with synonyms and participles.

The word only took on connotations related to sexual practice in the 20 th century. The history of BDSM bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism goes back much further. Bondage, and BDSM in general, became more commonly practiced after the publication of erotic literature in Victorian England, and its usage grew concurrently in the rest of Western Europe, Japan, and other Asian nations.

A similar Belgian study found nearly half of the respondents had at least experimented with BDSM, nearly ten percent considered it integral to their lifestyle, and another 22 percent had fantasized about it. And if you needed more evidence: the erotic Fifty Shades of Grey books, focusing on a relationship based largely on BDSM themes like bondage, Dominance and submission, were the best-selling books of the entire s.

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