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When most people think of a BDSM relationship, they usually only think of the Dominant and submissive roles typically a guy and a girl. The truth is, there are many shades of gray on the kink spectrum. But what exactly is the definition and meaning of a switch, and how do you do it right?
Keep reading to find out. The definition of a switch is someone who enjoys engaging in both Dominant and submissive roles, or both topping and bottoming. But what does that mean exactly? Well, the answer is: it depends on each individual dynamic. Here are some aspects about switching:. Some or all of these points may apply to you. Choose the BDSM identity that makes you feel the most comfortable. The porn industry has perpetuated the idea of one girl topping another girl, while the guy enjoys the show. A guy who is a switch, even if their partner is a girl, may be seen as weak or unmanly. A lot of vanilla couples switch roles in the bedroom either part-time or full-time.
Letting your vanilla partner be the more dominant one can help you see what they like and are into. Taking turns in a vanilla relationship also lets both of you have all your needs fulfilled. Switching can be a way to see what the other side has to offer, and who knows, you may like it more than you think.
I believe switching, even lightly, can help both BDSM partners appreciate each other more. I think switching can also be a way to see if there are any aspects of the other side you like, and want to test out and explore in scenes and play sessions. How you choose to identify yourself in the BDSM lifestyle is completely up to you. There are lots of different ways to enjoy switching and bring more kink to your relationship.
To get started, try sharing your fantasies with your partner in a light, and non-judgmental conversation. If you need some inspiration, here are some ideas:. Unlike the more traditional Dominant and submissive roles, switches tend to have unique challenges. Here are just a few and what you can do to overcome them:.
First of all, you should never expect or force a person to switch for you or be into kink and not be vanilla. There are ways to encourage your partner to be more Dominant, submissive, or kinky, and I cover in detail how to do that here. But if you take the right steps and be patient, it will become easier for them to do so. There are so many ways! I think letting it happen organically is best, as the mood hits you.
But you can also alternate days, or have set roles for specific situations for instance one person is always the rigger in rope play. Another fun way is to make getting to choose a certain role a reward for good behavior, even creating something like a contest. Experiment, have fun, and find what works for you! But really, any area that you agree upon in advance can work as long as you communicate openly about what you both need and want. Again, I usually say that the best way is to let it happen naturally.
You can also have set situations where you switch, or alternate whole scenes. Important safety note: If you do switch, make sure safewords are revisited. Also make sure to go over limits , which may be different in your new role. It can bring more fulfillment in your life, and more meaning to a relationship. I have always been a bratty submissive but just recently I have been exploring the dominant world and oh it is so much fun.
I am a sub with my husband but I am my kittens Dom. Being a switch gives great insight as to how to please and how to be pleased. I have always been the dominant in past relationships. But, I fantasize how it would feel to turn the tables. Being a switch I think is very exciting and has a ton of possibilities in furthering your relationship.
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